“There are times where taking a break and watching your partner with someone can be a blast too. So threesomes can be a great way to learn more about your own partner and yourself sexually.” -Ben, 32, Boston “Actually, I’ve learned some new ways to push my husband’s buttons because of the way a third engages with him or tries something on him. Porque no los dos?” -Louis, 36, Santa Cruz Also the taboo of it? If that makes sense? I love watching people fuck. “It's like being IN a porn that you are also watching. It’s actually shocking how many people (especially couples) are out at the bars hoping to find a new recruit.” -Angela, 42, Oklahoma City Now that I recognize like-minded people, it is easy to sense someone’s ‘vibe’. “Before I was into all of this I was completely oblivious to my surroundings. First thing’s first: how do you even set up a threesome? So, I reached out to people who have “regular or semi-regular” threesomes, and I learned a lot about what it takes to make one happen, and what makes them so damn hot.
However, people aren’t actually having that many threesomes, only 3% of people surveyed had a threesome in the past year, and only 1% of people surveyed had one in the past month. Justin Lehmiller, who interviewed over 4,000 couples for his book Tell Me What You Want, having a threesome is the top sexual fantasy, although men seem to be a bit more intrigued by the idea ( a separate study showed that 82% of men and 31% of women reported at least some interest in having a threesome). The allure of the ménage à trois cannot be ignored. Three is a magic number, especially when it comes to sex.
If you’ve seen any image of Idris Elba in a three piece suit you get it.